Dating different people
Answering advertisements was not yet entirely respectable, but I knew of some doctors and lawyers who married someone they met under these circumstances, (including a friend, who was a psychiatrist.
The person he met and married was another psychiatrist.) There were two problems inherent in advertising for dating purposes, or answering such advertisements.
They were afraid they would be rejected out of hand, or made fun of.
And they, too, were afraid of being trapped into being with someone who was undesirable.
The advertisements in The Village Voice were different than those in the various Jewish newspapers and different, also, from those in the New York Magazine.
Someone answering ads in one place might be replying to an invitation to engage in some sort of sex. Others were directed at more sober individuals who were thinking of getting married somewhere down the line.
There was need for an organized way for young couples to meet for the first time. Way, way back in frontier days, men in the wilderness advertised in Eastern newspapers for a bride.The women reported to me that they did not feel threatened—although they were very likely to report that they felt disappointed. Most of the precautions I thought were important were against being stuck for a whole evening with a boring date.I especially recommended arranging to meet for the first time only for coffee or a drink.(Of course, I go back a long way, to a time when there were streetcars going up and down Broadway.I could buy a milkshake for a All the telephones were black.) It was common, around that time, for men and women to meet at parties or at dances.